Working On A Better Me
Posted on March 19 2019
As an introvert, I am overly sensitive and often overthink things that I do and worry about what others think about me and my business. Socializing makes me mentally exhausted. I replay conversations in my head and wear myself out thinking about all the things I should have said or done. I often fail to look at my strengths and the things that I have accomplished and instead look at my weaknesses and failures. These things lead me to giving myself a complex and making myself insecure. The insecurity leads to negativity and depression.
While trying to work through my latest depressed state, I decided that there had to be things I could do (on top of medication) that would keep me from getting so down. I looked to google and found many lists of ways to beat depression and negativity. I’ve picked five to share below and hope that if any of you are like me, that they can be of help to you too.
You know that love that you have for your family or friends? The love that helps you overlook or forgive their imperfections. You need to do this for yourself too. You will be happier and your opinion of yourself will go up. Increasing your self-esteem will allow you to acknowledge the good things about yourself and be less sensitive to what others may think about you.
It’s Okay to Say No
If someone invites you out to dinner or an event and you are already feeling mental exhaustion, it is okay to say no. It’s okay to go and leave when you’ve had enough as well. Don’t allow anyone to make you feel bad for taking care of yourself. Only you know where you are mentally. While a lot of people look forward to going out on Friday or Saturday nights, I don’t. I’m ready to decompress from the socialization of the normal week and I need that alone time at home with my family.
I’ve always heard that when you wake up, the first thing you should do is think about 3 things you’re grateful for. Reflecting on the things that you are thankful for, puts you into a positive mindset. Beginning your day positively, should make it easier to have positive emotions throughout your day.
Remember that you are a work in progress, so you shouldn’t expect anyone else to be perfect either. Let things go, choose to move on and leave bitterness behind. Be the bigger person when someone has hurt your feelings. This doesn’t mean you have to let people walk all over you, but you also don’t have to respond in anger or cruelty. Don’t forget that God is always showing us grace by forgiving and loving us daily.
Stop comparing someone else’s strengths to your weaknesses. You have your own strengths. Think about what those are and be proud of yourself. Think about where you are now compared to a year ago. You should only compare yourself to you. See value in YOUR strengths and continue working on YOUR journey.
I would love to hear from y’all if you have found something that works great for you. It may be something that will resonate with another one of our members.
“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” – Thomas Jefferson